What Was THAT Defining Moment For You? - Page 3

scarlet_ · #41 04-09-2009, 16:44

Like a few others in here, I didn't really have a defining moment as such, though, thinking about it, I have had many moments which could have been, had I done more than just supress them.

I have been overweight pretty much my whole life, not to the extreme I am now, but I have never been what one woud refer to as slim, and I have always been very self concious of my weight.
I lost about 25kgs a few years back, and for the first time I could remember, I actually felt relatively happy in my skin, I was a very easy size 14, still not skinny I know, but I was happy, or so I thought. It didn't last though, within 12 months, I had put on 35kgs, and have continued to put on since.
I'm now 31, ad bigger than I have ever been before, I dont have much of a social life, because I hate going anywhere. I always turn down invitations to go out, because I have nothing to wear, and because I just dont want to be out in public.
Now, I want children, for years I said that I wanted to start at 27, then at 27 it got bumped to 30, and then at 30, was bumped to 32. I realised that I can't keep doing this forever, I keep putting of my life, and for what? So I can sit at home, miserable on the couch, and eat potato chips or chocolate when I want to? omg, how ridiculous is that? lol
I dont think a day has gone by when I haven't thought about my weight, and just wanted to cry, not one single day, and I've had enough!
It's time to start making some positives moves, so I can have a future. I'm not a child anymore, I have no-one to answer to but myself, and no-one to blame but myself for the state of my life, so no excuses.
So, I may continue to think about my weight everyday for the rest of my life, I dont know, but as of yesterday, it will only be in a positive light.

So basically, I am doing this for myself. Myself, and my future children.

judi777 · #42 04-09-2009, 19:58

The inner skinny girl had just had enough and wanted out of the sweaty, huffy-puffy, ugly fat suit.

fornight · #43 10-09-2009, 13:11

I was having chronic pain for two months and I thought it was due to stiff muscles or rheumatism. It started with a nagging ache in the left hip and then escalated to shooting pain from left hip all the way to left calf. I could not sit or stand still for more than 10 minutes and the pain continue throughout the whole day.

Suddenly one day, I started experiencing tingling sensation in my left feet pad while walking. A thought flashed in me that this pain could be linked back to my spine disc problem. I went to see my Orthopedic doctor and was advised to do a surgery after going through X-rays and MRI screening. I was shocked to hear that but was actually resigned to the need of a surgery because my doctor told me it is the only way to alleviate me from the chronic pain I was experiencing then. Before I arrange a date to do the surgery, I was lucky enough to talk to a colleague who used to have the same problem and he advised against the surgery. He recommended me a Chiropractor as well as impart a lot of useful information. I did my research and found out that excess weight is one of the factors that is causing the problem. That was the moment when I realise that I could no longer procastinate the issue of my obesity any longer.

its my time · #44 16-09-2009, 22:05

Mine was so many of the reasons already listed but the cruch came when i went into a store to buy a nice top and looked at several, the lady whom i had shopped there from for the past 8 years asked me ploitely if i had private health cover to which i replied i was about to join, she replied "oh thats good, do you know it only takes a 12 month waiting period for you to get lap banding or gastric bypass)... at 104 kgs i knew i was big but that crushed me, i almost crawled out of the store and sobbed all the way home.
i have since learnt that she had gastric bypass some 5 years ago and has lost 60 kgs and maintians that by having i weetbix a day and 50 tablets.....
i will never ever feel like that fat ugly girl again

mcpsych · #45 22-01-2010, 09:54

i think it is important to remember the past so we dont repeat the mistakes and relive it in our new future.
I have probably said the following in previous posts
I was never unhappy being a fat bstrd per se. I have had to ask for a seatbelt extension for many many years. On my last plane trip ( virgin airlines) i put the arm rest up which makes it more comfy . when i went to put it down for takeoff i found that it would not go past my stomach.
when i got home i looked around at all the programs and realised i had done them all bar cohens and banding. cohens got the nod that week. I told my wife that i wanted more life than two years ( when i expected to die) and now i feel like i have got it. I can walk up stairs, i can bend and i can breathe
cohen should be given the nobel prize

cobie_lee · #46 22-01-2010, 11:03

Im 22, My defining moment, was when i was in the middle of shellharbour square in april 09 with my little brother who had come for a visit, my son (who was turning 1) and my fiance, and we all decided to jump on the scales there. I was 179kgs. 50kgs heavier than my fiance who is quite tall and muscular. I never on earth thought that i was that big. I sat down, in the middle of the shopping centre, crying my heart out, because i was scared i was gonna die and not see my beautful son grow up.

3 weeks later my father in law paid the cohens fee for me, and i have been on this program ever since may 1st 09.. I am now a few 100grams lighter than my fiance and i have 58kgs to go (down from 106kgs)

I had my stomach banded in 2006 but my body to a reverse effect and itdoesnt work. I am grateful that cohens is working, and i am losing the weight

firefox · #47 22-01-2010, 12:13

Wow Cobie_Lee that is quite a powerful defining moment. Thanks for sharing it. It brings back so many memories for me, mainly the worry about my kids. Not just that I wouldn't get to see them grow up, but that even if I did, they would get stuck with massive medical bills for me (they still might, but at least it won't be because of my own neglect) and the psychological impact of a mother who didn't care about herself enough to watch her health.

mcpsych- I agree with you about the nobel prize for the good doc. But since he doesn't publish his research, that is never going to happen. Maybe we should make up our own award for him!

emjay2010 · #48 22-01-2010, 14:58

You're all so inspiring. My defining moments were recent.

1. A very good friend turned 50 in November and had a party to which I was invited. It was a cocktail type dress code. I realised I had no clothes or shoes for this sort of occasion and I felt so self conscious about the way I looked that I told her we couldn't come. I did tell her the truth and she understood. A couple of weeks later she called me and told me that while she undertood and accepted my reasons, she was so disappointed that we were not there to celebrate with her. I was so upset and angry with myself and hurt that I'd missed out.

2. I am going to turn 50 in May and I realised that I may be reasonably healthy still, but I'm not happy and I want to enjoy the next 30 or so years of my life and be here when my girls get married and have families of their own.

3. I reaslised I am letting my weight decide what social events I can and can't join in on.

These things combined scared the hell out of me and for the first time in my life I actually questioned what I want for myself. When someone told me about Cohen's I did some research and decided this was the right way for me to go.

I am on day 9 now and actually enjoying it. I've not eaten anything that I shouldn't and I am not suffering at all. The only thing I miss is my Cappucino. I love my Cappucino, but I know that one day I can have them again, just not yet!

littlemiss · #49 24-01-2010, 00:56

I think I am fortunate because when I reached my heaviest weight ever (I never weighed myself but I suspect I was in the early 70s kg), I moved to a small town in Indonesia. Completely stopped my habit of eating out every day, but although I was eating at home, my meals were not healthy. Still, I managed to drop some weight which was encouraging.

I heard about Cohen on twitter of all places! From someone who was tracking their weight loss - I was impressed with his results and had asked him about the programme. Believe it or not, that was about April 2009, I think. It took me months to decide whether I wanted this. I was put off by the high price (for Asians, it's comparatively more expensive) but also intrigued by the method. Also, I wasn't sure whether I could stick to a diet. I'm someone who would say ok, I'm dieting today! and by afternoon, I'm snacking on chocolate because I can't bear the thought of depriving myself.

Over the months of deciding, did some online research - surprisingly enough, I NEVER found this forum until this month. Don't know why. I would have started the programme sooner if I knew about the support and wealth of information on this forum.

I also tried to eat healthier by cutting on some carbs such as rice but I was still eating a lot of potatoes and carrots because I thought I was craving them. Finally, decided to take the plunge and sign up even though I knew it would have to be via correspondence and that I would have a difficult time sourcing some of the allowed foods on the programme. Even so, it took some time before I officially started and despite some silly deviations, I have to say that I am committing to this programme as best as I can. I think I've lost more weight than the 2 kg as listed on the ticker but haven't weighed myself yet.

I am grateful because I feel that I have the tools now to eat better. Despite some minor hunger pangs now and then, I know now to listen to my body and not just feed it. I feel less bloated, happier, etc... wished I did this sooner!

Corbyns mum · #50 25-01-2010, 11:18

Hmmmm defining moments well I have always been big and over the year have tried everything to loose the weight but have never been able to get to goal or even near it, then when i met my bf i was down (for the first time in ten years)to about 126kg then i fell pregnant in Sept 07 only 3 months into the relationship.

I was already to go to my local hospital for my first antenatal check at about 20 weeks and i got a shock when they said "sorry but you are over the weight restrictions for the hospital i felt so belittled and ashamed(by the end of my pregnancy i had ballooned to 147kg) so i was being sent to a hospital 1 and half hours away from where i lived but even though i had no real complications besides getting gestational diabetes and i even ate all the right food no junk and exercised felt as if i had done a get harm to my child and not given him the best start he could of had also i felt as if everyone at the hospital was staring and judging cause of my size.

So after having my son in June 08 and giving him a year of mummy time i finally started my program in Sep 09 and have not and will not look back, me and my bf are also talking about having another baby after i finish the program and go on my reward holiday in October then we will be officially TTC i want to do the next pregnancy right and at a normal weight so i don't have to worry as much about the complications that might happen.

Kohinoor · #51 06-07-2011, 20:19

A bump for a top thread !!

Embee · #52 07-07-2011, 21:37

For me it was a double whammy... first one was attending the post Christmas sales and struggling to find anything in a size 22 that I liked and when trying things on having to see myself in the change room mirrors (I dont have any full length mirrors at home so it was a bit of a shock to me).

Karol1 · #53 08-07-2011, 13:30

For me it was sickening feeling that I was just idle in my life. I wasn’t wearing the clothes I wanted to wear, I was wearing Kmart, Big W and Cross roads (not that there is anything wrong with that). I couldn’t shop in normal stores as their sizes only go to 16. I want to wear Cue, Review and Allanah Hill clothes
I got sick and tired of feeling sick and tired and not participating in life. I didn’t want to participate at family events, holidays and gathering! My second daughter will be 3 in October I don’t have any family pictures with my husband and two girls. My older daughter got asked to bring a family photo into school I couldn’t find one! One of my rewards for the end of the year is to go and have some glamour photos done will my husband and two girls!
As I couldn’t love myself I couldn’t show love to my husband I was always angry and snapping, “Everything was his fault”, now I know it was my way to showing him how much turmoil I was feeling inside, it was an unconscious way to make him suffer as I was suffering inside. We got help and discovered I was the problem, I realised that I had to change my attitude towards myself and stop feeling sorry for myself and just do it for me. This spring will be different, we are going on holidays and I am going to all the parties in my new outfits! This is a promise I have made to myself.

Bree · #54 12-07-2011, 16:14

Wow @Karol1 - I must say what you have written reflected how I was feeling! BUT I also didn't seriously think that there was a problem, I think that was denial - I did think I looked okay, it was just that I was busy with life to even make me number one.

Late last year I decided that 2011 was going to be for me, got myself a PT and I must say I worked my ***** off (the thing is my ***** never changed) but I was fit and could run for 20 mins. It was my husband that gave me the go ahead to spend some $$ on me, and for that I am grateful, he told me about one of his workmates doing Cohens and how she looked and how easy she said it was.

My goal, to fit into my wedding dress again, not that exciting for everyone else but for me it will mean being at the end of a rainbow with a pot of gold, start of my married life again

only this time I will be important, not just a mum, wife and friend - but me (important me)

Karol1 · #55 13-07-2011, 14:50

Bree Denail is a death trap- facing the reality has helped me see that I can change if I really want it bad enough.

sapphire girl · #56 26-07-2011, 10:08

What a great thread!

I have a couple of defining moments when I knew it was time to mke some changes.

First one was going shopping for clothes and basically just buying what ever they had that fit whether I really liked it or not. Then buying the same t-shirt in all 4 colours available because I just didn't know when I would find a top that fitted again.

The second moment which really pushed me to do something about my weight was when I got on the scales one morning and saw that I was only 200grams off the weight I was when I went into labour with my daughter. What a shock!

4 months on cohens and 22 kgs gone, I feel amazing already!!

Vivo · #57 29-12-2011, 16:48

My husband telling me he does not find my fat attractive
At a garden party and some ladies congratulating me on my obvious pregnancy (I wasn't!!)
My daughter stuck and crying in the tunnel slide at McDonalds - I was too fat to go in and get her
But THE moment was when I saw someone I know who had been on Cohens - I knew then, I COULD do it

NSS · #58 10-02-2012, 03:01

I have been fat since I was a teenager, tried lots of diets but always kept gaining back, I heard about Cohen's a long time ago but wasnt sure if I could stick to it.
The most defining moment for me was when I reached 92 kg, I weighed as much as my husband. We were on a holiday and I was getting dressed to go out for a fancy dinner. I wore a nice dress which still somehow fitted me and wore a nice pair of shoes, I bent down to tie the buckle and realized that I cant do it, I tried for about 15 minutes but couldnt, asked my husband to do it. I have no words to describe how I felt. That very moment I decided that enough is enough. Came back from the trip and joined Cohens.

Kohinoor · #59 28-04-2012, 13:13

Bump - and deservedly so !!!

justakiwig · #60 29-04-2012, 06:08

hi all

just to add my 2c worth......

i had just won quite a big industry award and my wake up call was being in an airplane with all my top managers having to ask for the extra seat belt just to do the belt up then trying to squeeze myself into my seat - humiliating to say the least, not to mention the photograph that was taken with the ceo and myself with my award that went into our company mailer - and we're a multi national company WOW!!! humiliation, degradation, sadness but an eye opener - never again