Binge Eating, Anxiety, Obsession and Panic

[hexi2]

Hehehe the answers always lie within...its just a matter of whether we want to look within.

Let us know how the hypnosis goes...

[lindy lou]

Hi Daniella
My son was born without his left foot and only four toes and he is fitted with a prosthetic foot and he is now 19 months old and going strong. What your nephew has is sad but just know he will have a long and special life. I would not change my son for a "normal" son if I could. I do hope the operation goes well and my thoughts go out to him and his parents. Having prosthetic limbs will in no way stop him from having a fulfilling life. Just thought Id let you know I am here for some comfort for you.

Michelle

[Daniella]

Hi Michelle,
Thanks so much for your post. I know what you're saying - living with prostheses will give him the best shot at living a 'normal' life - he'll be able to walk and run, whereas without he would be confined to a wheelchair.
My fiancé is always saying that this kind of thing is always harder on the adults than it is on the child, and I think he's right. I think it's just dealing with the decisions that we have to make for the children that is the hardest. I know my sister had a really tough time actually resigning herself to the fact that removing his legs will be the best thing for him. It's just a hard reality I suppose. You never want to have to make those kinds of decisions. We searched all over the world and I found a surgeon in Spain who does all these amazing limb transplants, but even he told us that the best option was amputation

I'm trying to keep positive: I know he will be fine once he's learnt to walk. It's just the thought of what he has to go through to get there, is what I have a hard time with.

Anyway thank you so much, it's nice to know there are people in the world who understand! I'm glad to hear your son is doing well, I'll keep you posted on my nephew's op.
Many, many thanks

[shell]

Here is an interesting article I found, it say's that "You live the way you eat"

http://www.geneenroth.com/articles/t...t1page0001.pdf

Very interesting read.
Shell

[JuJu82]

I haven't had time to read this entire thread so i'm not sure if anyone has mentioned this earlier.

I've only got 10kg left to lose after already losing 35kg, but I have been deviating a lot lately and getting fustrated with myself cause it keeps delaying my weight loss when i don't even have too far left to go. I've read How to think like a Thin Person by Dr Judith Beck and i'm starting to follow her plan. Its a matter of identifying the sabotaging thoughts that led you to the action of eating the wrong foods. Reflecting back i found that i was saying to myself "i'm sick of this diet" and "I could stop this diet right now and i'd be happy with the way i look, why should i bother keep going?" and "i'll just have a mouthful, it won't hurt". By following Dr Becks 7 question technique i explored these thoughts and came up with responses to tell myself next time i had them and wrote them on a card i carry around with me. The questions are similar to the ones posted earlier like 'What evidence is there that this thought isn't true?' and 'What would you tell someone close to you if they were having these thoughts?'. By doing this process i it has really helped me realise how your mind can totally fool yourself into 'false truths'. Every time i start finding myself starting to develop un-helpful habits now i do this technique and try and identify whats really going on in my head.

The book also suggests that after completing a weight loss program, to write on a card all the things you enjoy about being at your goal weight and to read it as often as possible. She also talks about cravings and binging, and to avoid the internal struggle that goes in your mind before you give-in and reach for that cheesecake or buiscuit, make some rules for yourself and write them on a card that says "NO CHOICE". We have this in other parts of our life like brushing our teeth before bed. We don't give ourselves the choice of not doing it, so there is never a struggle - we just accept it and do it! Its the same principle. Things you might write on the NO CHOICE card could be 'when eating out, only eat 25% more than i would at home' and 'always have an equal proportion of protien, vegetables and carbs on my plate' and 'always eat at the table'.

I imagine that i will continue to need to write response cards to sabotaging thoughts for a long time after i finish Cohen's and i think creating "NO CHOICE" cards will really help those who are on maitenance develop good habits for life, and i hope it will for me too!

[nattyg]

JuJu!
You have just described the exact position I find myself in tonight.
Thank you - I am going book shopping.
Nat

[awardl]

Why does everyone seem to loose so much faster than me? does some people just loose slower naturally?
It is extremely frustrating

[sundaymorningstaple]

Originally Posted by awardl

Why does everyone seem to loose so much faster than me? does some people just loose slower naturally?
It is extremely frustrating

Since you started the program how much weight have you lost? Divide the total by the total weeks you have been on the program to see what your average weekly loss is. Mine was only 1.1kg/wk. Other's like Barczar lost 17kg the first MONTH!. But he lost 40+ kg. in around 4.5 months, I lost 25kg in 22 weeks. Everybody will lose at different rates. However, be assured of one that that is fact. If you do the programme as it was designed to be done, and do it 100% you will lose the weight. All of it. You body is different from everybody else so why should it behave exactly the same way? But lose it, you will, if you will but stick with it. Dr. C advises on weighing once a month for a reason........

[FlaMie]

Hmmm, interesting thread. I just hope I don't go down this way since my weight has been pretty stubborn lately. I'm really near the end but somehow the body is hesitant in losing the last 4-5kg . Just so afraid that I'll end up deviating and bingeing...not healthy.

[sundaymorningstaple]

FlaMie, that's just not so and you know it. You have learned sooo much about yourself in the last 6 months. You never realized just how strong you really are. You, who swore that they could not last a month has hit 6 months and still going strong. You have gained an inner strength that all here have marveled at. You are one of the new torchbearers here!

[FlaMie]

Thanks SMS haha that's cos I've got a wonderful 'shifu' master so you wanna hand your torch to me?

[JuJu82]

Ive been on Cohens for over 7 months now and have lost 36kg. I feel like im losing weight slower than everyone else too but i guess steady as she goes... at least im losing faster than i would have if i stayed on weight watches

[sundaymorningstaple]

Originally Posted by FlaMie

Thanks SMS haha that's cos I've got a wonderful 'shifu' master so you wanna hand your torch to me?

That's what I like! But I think we need all of us successful ones to keep a firm hand on the torch. Including Connie and lots of others here who don't give in to temptation. With strength, we will overcome those who don't listen to the "gospel" as told by Dr. C. and hopefully, those newcomers will see our successes and know that they are in fact achievable if one just follows the programme as it is written instead of thinking they know better than the man with 25 years of research and experience.

[sundaymorningstaple]

JuJu82, just remember, every body is different and will lose at its given speed. But, lose it, you will. My average was only 1.1 kg/wk for the duration of the programme that I was on it. Most lost more than that but due to my age factor, the diet was constructed to have me lose around the 1kg/wk mark. Dr. C actually designs the programmes differently for lots of reasons, including age, gender, shoe size, general health and so forth. The idea here is to get us back to a healthy state and not to just lose weight. A rapid loss of weight without regard to health will only cause you to derail later and gain it all back and probably then some. Here, he is trying to rebalance your Hormones at the same time without causing any other health problems.

Also, if it really grates on the emotions, quit weighing weekly or daily as lots of people cannot help but stress over it and that's not a good thing, as it will cause your wight loss to slow down even further and become a catch 22 situation where one feeds on the other. Don't worry, it will all come of when it's supposed to if you but remain 100% to the programme.

sms

[FlaMie]

Hi Juju,

You might be glad to know that you are still ahead of me in terms of weight loss. Ending mth 6 today, I've lost 29.8kg - now doesn't make you feel a hell lot better? We are all different - age / work level / stress level etc etc. So, don't compare, just be glad that we're all 'losers'

[fornight]

Great infor!!! *bump*

[JuJu82]

Hi guys,

I'm not on maintenance yet but made and interesting observation regarding milk that i thought i would share. A while ago I had a group of guests come over to my house for afternoon tea. In anticipation I thought I would buy 1L of milk for guests to have in thier tea and coffee. Now, all these people happened to be fairly slim, and when taking the orders for drinks hardly anyone had milk in thier tea or coffee, which really suprised me. Actually I don't think i even opened the milk carton and ended up having to chuck it out a few days later.

Now at my workplace everyone is addicted to having morning tea, with an 'official' morning tea at least twice a week where people bring in cakes and sweets. I started noticing that almost everyone partaking in these morning tea's had very milky coffee's and teas, and they would continue picking at the leftover sweets for the rest of the day. And there is a lollie jar on the communal table and I hear people pinching sweets all day long. Needless to say, these people are at least on the heavier side of slim...

I must say before Cohen's I never had a tea or coffee without milk or two teaspoons of sugar. I loved my milky coffee!

[kit]

Hi everybody,

Thanks so much for this thread - it has been a fantastic resource for me. So brave and gracious for you all to be so candid and open.

rather annoyed ... just accidentally deleted my whole post ... so here goes, round number 2

It has been a while since I was last on this forum (around the time I finished refeed) - boy have I missed you guys!!!

In the interim, I have been traveling around Europe and started living in the UK (am currently on a years uni exchange). It has been fun, I wish I was just able to enjoy myself a little more.

I have been traveling around Europe for the last 2 months. However, I am somewhat ashamed to say that I don't think that I truly enjoyed my journey (or at least as much as I should have!). I couldn't bring myself to travel through Europe without at least trying the local delicacies - in Belgium it was waffles and chocolate, in Germany it was Turkish and Sausage.

I left for my trip 2 days into maintenance - so I hadn't fully got my head around the necessities of life on maintenance. As such, I was a bit too lax with how I managed these treats. Combined with the fact that I was on a backpackers diet (although i did manage to largely avoid booze) my craving for sugar became INTENSE!!! So then, I found myself bingeing on a fairly regular basis, and on not so nice food, feeling horribly guilty about the whole thing (and purging too, on way too many occasions).

So in what seems like no time at all, I have succumb to bingeing, my insulin and serotonin levels are consequently totally out of whack and feeling really guilty and a little depressed. I have also managed to gain about 8 kgs during the 8 weeks since I finished refeed.

This has all come as a large shock, because I never binged prior to cohens, and I have never felt this out of control in my life!!!

I finally properly moved into my flat (after traveling intermittently in the UK for 3 weeks) and have had 10 days of false starts on cohens again (i know that you are meant to order a new program if you gain over 4 kgs, but i honestly cannot afford it). I am now nearing the end of day 2, without any deviations (although many cravings!!!). It was never this hard the first time to start. I dont know if this is because I have moved away from the support of my family and friends, feeling guilty about the bingeing and not really enjoying myself, or because there is no real urgency to loose the weight again (as there was before I left). Anyway, I really hope that I can make it this time

Does anyone have any advice? I would greatly appreciate anything!

oh and ps (to all you Australians) ... go the cats!
I went to the Australian pub, and did not eat the vills pies, Aussie beer (good stuff - coopers and little creatures) or shapes (i do not like these foods, but provide a taste of home to a semi-homesick me!)

[steph]

Hi Hexi, I am from Alice Springs to tough currently in Adelaide for the next few weeks. I would love to meet you, would you be keen to meet up for a coffee sometime when i get back, no pressure tho?

[salvital]

It's been great finding this thread on binge eating because I've really been struggling with that in the last few weeks. It was OK at first when I came off Cohens but now I seem to be regularly bingeing and, like Hexi2, it's on sweet things, which I didn't have such a big problem with before, as well as savoury snacks which I've always had a problem with. Anyway I've decided that the only way to avoid the binges is to avoid the first mouthful of those "trigger" foods.