Terrified of refeed

WendyNZ · #1 06-11-2009, 11:31

Today I have decided to start refeed, which has unleashed lots of mixed emotions.

I have told myself for such a long time that I need to limit what I'm eating, and that I dare not put anything extra into my mouth....now to start refeed I feel incredibly guilty and bad, that I just had extra veges at lunchtime.

In hindsight what an emotional roller coaster we go though, telling ourselves that we can only eat such a small amount, and dare not have more etc. Now to have to retrain my brain that I am allowed to eat more, and at the same time without the negative thoughts that previously I would have had.

I see that a lot of people are estatic to start refeed, and right now I am the opposite and am petrified with the thought of the process.

I'd be interesting to hear if anyone else felt the same way....

fornight · #2 06-11-2009, 11:38

You are not the only one. I am too terrified of refeed.

Shanara · #3 06-11-2009, 12:20

Hi Wendy

Often when frightening feelings come up our tendency is to want to either deny them or cover them up. Great that you have talked about them and now perhaps you can sit with those feelings and see what is behind them. Allow them to have free rein in your body until they just disappate. Just breathe as you are doing it.

Then perhaps the feelings will move from ones of fear to ones of love - love for your body and wanting to give it the nutrition it needs. For much as i love the Cohen's programme for weight loss of that was to continue in that form you would be abusing your body. Time now to refeed and give your body what it needs.

Shanara

sundaymorningstaple · #4 06-11-2009, 12:35

Just a quick note. Try to remember what you were told about the programme all those months ago. The weightloss programme is a prescription to get your body back to a good healthy state so that you can move into "life" again. It's like any perscriptive, it's for a limited time to accomplish a fixed task. It's done it's job. Now it's time to start the "Lifestyle" change that will prevent you from having to go back on "medication". Remember, it was only a process to get to a certain point. Dr. C knows exactly what he is doing.

You'll be right!

kiwinui · #5 06-11-2009, 17:14

I hear you Wendy

Today is my first day and I have only just had my first piece of extra fruit. It felt naughty and I still have the extra protein and veg to have for dinner.

I think its kinda normal to be anxious, but you have trusted this so far, no need to change now...

How long is your refeed? Mine is 17 days!

i chickend out of having bread, will wait to have mine tomorrow with a poached egg...that will be cool

WendyNZ · #6 06-11-2009, 19:02

Thanks Kiwinui, I pop in and keep up with your progress from time to time, but I didnt know you were starting refeed today, congratulations

Mine is 18 days long, and I get bread tomorrow, having trouble deciding if I should or not too...? I didnt do a diary as I want too comfortable with putting one in, but I look forward to following you and seeing how you are getting on especially since you started the same day as me

Shanara fornight and sms thanks also for your comments. I have completed day one eating everything I'm supposed to, and I am so full I think I might burst. This is quite unpleasant....but yes you are right, I guess I just started looking at the amounts we were having as being close to normal, and having more frightens me. I must say that by the way my tummy feels tonight, I'm not sure I want it to stretch any further?

But bring on tomorrow and hopefully my brain sorts itself out soon.....

Thank you xx

ConnieK.. · #7 06-11-2009, 19:18

Wendy,

We have all been there hon .... It is very daunting ... you are terrifed it's all coming back if we ever eat anything extra ... but it won't

I spread my extra out across meal 2 and 3 every day of refeed and that helped .. so I added 1/2 extra veg to meal 2 and 1/2 to meal 3 and same for protein. That way it was evenly distributed and didn't seem quite so huge by day 19.

Don't be afraid of bread either, you need to know how YOUR body reacts to it .... some ppl have had it and not been affected at all. Dr C introduces things in refeed at a controlled pace so you can see what affects you .... eat it and enjoy it ... trust in the plan as you have so far... there is a method there .... I have never seen anyone who gained even the 1kg on refeed ....

It is really important to get refeed right .... so just follow the book ....

Connie