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Old 20-04-2010, 09:49
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This is a letter reprinted from here : http://www.craigharper.com.au/philos...tual/dear-you/


Dear You,


Hi, how are you? Actually, donít answer that. I know already. I know because I am you. Well, kind of you. Iím the other you; the you, you could be. The you, you want to become. The you that both excites and terrifies you. I am the one who has whispered encouragement in your ear for as long as you can remember. I am the one who planted those dreams in your hopeful, young heart. The one who held your hand when you were scared and the one who knows you best. I have always been there. I will always be there. I am your potential. I am your possibilities. I am your strength.



I am you.




Over the years you have let the noise of the world drown out my whispers. You have allowed life to beat the dreams out of you. You have listened to strangers who resent you and ignored me who loves you. You have allowed logic to replace passion, fear to replace excitement, chaos to replace calm and you let go of my hand long ago. Iím making contact with you today because I want you to know Iím still here. Still waiting. Still whispering. Still planting seeds and still holding out my hand. I know you feel frustrated. I understand. I know you feel like youíve wasted too much time and talent. You havenít. I know you feel like a fraud. Youíre not. I listen to the conversations; the ones in your head. They are exhausting. And unnecessary. Sometimes I try to interject but latelyÖ you doní t even hear me.


Thatís why this letter.


I see everything you do. Everything. I know you intimately and I want only the best for you. I see your fear and I want you to know that you need not fear because while you are mortal, you also are eternal. Your present physical reality is but a minor pit-stop on a much greater journey. While you have a body, it is not who you are. While you may have achieved much, you are not, and will never be, your achievements. And while you often think too much, your thoughts are not you and you are not them. You are much more than all of those very temporary things. I want you to know that while you are one of six billion, you are both special and unique; even though you donít feel like either. I know right now that thereís more that you donít understand than you doÖ and thatís okay. Normal even. We call that being human. One day, youíll understand more but for now, you donít need to understand everything. Nobody does. Sometimes all you need to do isÖ BE. Can you do that? Thinking is good to a point. After that point, it will make you sick. You have allowed your thoughts to come between you and meÖ or should I say between you and the you, you have always wanted to become.


In a few seconds when you finish reading this letter, I want you to close your eyes, open your heart, open your mind, be still and just listen. Donít think, just listen. Please. Iíll do all the talking. Just for a minute or two. Donít think or rationalise me out of existence. Youíve done that too much already. I know youíre busy but this is important. Youíre important. Thatís why I hijacked the Fat Ninjaís blog. You listen to him but now I want you to listen to me. Er, you. I want to have that long-overdue conversation with you and I want your full attention. That quickening of your heart, that emotion youíre beginning to feel right now is me. Or should I say, you. The inspirational you. The fearless you. The beautiful, talented, generous, kind and amazing you.


Love you, letís stay in touch.


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Old 20-04-2010, 17:56
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WOW!!!!!!!!!! that's all i can say, Conniek that is a great find we should all print it out and just look at it at times we feel down because that is some very inspiring words that i bet we can all relate to
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Old 20-04-2010, 18:00
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Hi me again found the other half of this post on the same site




Hi.
Itís me again. Well actually, itís you again but you know what I mean. It seems that we made something of a connection the other day and who am I, you, weÖ to stand in the way of a breakthrough? A few tears, some quiet reflection and a little snot; all the transformational basics. After such a long time, I wasnít sure that you would remember my voice, but you did and that made me happy. I was glad you found a moment to be still and quiet. A moment to escape the chaos between your ears and a moment to simply listen to your heart.

Thatís where hope lives and thatís where I live; your heart. You should visit more often; itís a much more uplifting place than your head has been lately. I want you to find many more moments like the one we shared the other day. Moments to tune out the noise and tune in to me. Me who knows best and loves you most. Moments to find your way back from the chaos of your daily grind and into the calm of my voice and the power of my words. And moments to slide your hand into mine and just be. If you donít find space, if you donít be still and if you donít take those moments, how will you hear my whispers? How will you know my touch? And how will you recognize my strength? Which is to say, your strength.

I see part of you wants to hope, but I also see that the reality of it scares you because being hopeful in the past has often been a source of pain.

I also hear the numerous ďwhat ifĒ questions that play over and over in your exhausted and anxious mind. I see the wall you have built between yourself and others. On one level that wall protects you, but on another, it destroys you. You know what Iím talking about.

I see the brave face that tries to hide the sadness and pain and I see the self-created emotional prison youíve inhabited for far too long. You might fool them and you may even fool yourself sometimes, but youíve never fooled me. I know who and what you are. Every part. I see what nobody else sees, I know the unknown and despite your humanity and your flaws, I love you unconditionally now and forever.

Part of my reason for writing again today is to encourage you to continue the journey you started the other day. It wasnít just an emotional blip on the radar; it was the beginning of something very real, significant and potentially life-changing if you would only allow it to be so.

I want you to hold on to that feeling because that is our connection. Itís where you and I meet. Donít let your fear and self-doubt continue to deprive you of what could and should be; your amazing and beautiful future.

Freedom, power, happiness and hope are all choices and I want you to choose them all. Even though the very thought scares you. I donít want you to miss out any more.

I know that being hopeful is a big challenge for you because youíve been let down in the past and to be honest, you will be let down again. We call that life. Nonetheless, I want you to be hopeful anyway, because a life without hope is no life at all. You will be fine.

Your problems will become lessons and your lessons will become your strength. I know the power that lives in you because I am that power. And I know the talent and potential because I am that talent and I am that potential.

While I want you to freely give and receive love Ė lifeís greatest joy Ė I donít want you to be dependent on any one person for your happiness or security. For the most part, dependency equals dysfunction and dysfunction equals pain. The moment you are totally reliant on someone else for your emotional and psychological survival, is the moment you have given away your power. And youíve done that too many times already.

For years youíve looked for external approval, strength, support and even Ďpermissioní from others, when all you ever needed to do was look within. Itís all there. You are enough. More than enough. You always have been. For years youíve over-estimated others while under-estimating yourself. You trusted them, while doubting me. That is, you. And it was always your doubt Ė not your ability Ė that stood between you and your dreams. You and transformation. You and enlightenment. You and happiness.

Itís time for change.

I know that taking chances doesnít come easily to you; I want you to take them anyway. I know your fears because I listen to the internal dialogue, I see through your eyes and I feel what you feel.

You may not know it, comprehend it or even believe it yet, but I am telling you that you have more strength, courage and power than you could ever imagine, if only you would open that door. Your perceived weakness comes not from lack of power or potential but rather, from lack of belief. Itís time for you to believe. In you.

Self-belief comes not from a place of arrogance or ego, but from a place of knowing and understanding. Knowing and understanding who you are and what you are capable of. And you are indeed capable of much.

Itís time for you to stop empowering others and sabotaging yourself. Time to step out of the darkness of fear and into the light of your potential. You are worthy. You are good enough. You are talented. You are powerful. And you are loved and valued more than you know. The voice that tells you otherwise is not logic or intelligence. It is the betrayer; fear. The one who would steal your passion, your promise, your potential and your possibilities, if you would let him.

So this will be my last letter to you for some time but I will be speaking to you daily. All you need to do is pay attention. I have written enough for the moment and now it is time for you to do. Do what you were born to do.

Still watching, still whispering, still loving and still holding out my hand.
Speak soon
You xx
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Old 20-04-2010, 19:54
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Geeez steal my thunder hon ... I was waiting a couple of days to post that one ... *sigh* .... LOL
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Old 20-04-2010, 21:13
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hahaha sorry ck actually thought you missed it lol was just a great read i printed it out and have it up on my bedroom wall just to inspire me lol
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Not hard to recognise a classic is it? Specially when they are THIS GOOD !!

Nice find, Connie.....

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Oh yes...more food for the soul....love it
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I am so glad I stumbled across this thread, what an interesting article - like it was written for me lol (I bet we are all thinking that).

This guy is awesome, I have just spent an hour reading through some of his website.

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ConnieK, that original letter made me rather teary. It's beautiful and I'm sorry Tomorrow, but it was actually written for me! lol

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Thanks for putting that up - it spoke to me in a way it might not have been intended to and it did bring tears to my eyes.....
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Hi, all you wonderful "you's" out there.....

I stumbled over this again today, and figured that "bumping" it would make a lovely "Christmas gift" for all of you !!

So, simply go back to post #1 of this thread, and enjoy !!

Merry Christmas to all of you, and a Propserous New year too....



Koh

PS As I was typing "snog" (to make the little emoticon) I inadvertently typed song - and that gave me a smile. I hope this thread sings to you like it does to me !!
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Bumpity bump for a little GEM !!!

Does THIS bit sing to you? (I've seen it posted many times, so I reckon it will strike a chord with many...)
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I know you feel like a fraud. Youíre not. I listen to the conversations; the ones in your head. They are exhausting. And unnecessary. Sometimes I try to interject but latelyÖ you doní t even hear me.

Thatís why this letter.



Go read the first post, then follow on down, and.....

You're welcome !!
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That is an absolutely brilliant post Koh! So powerful and sooo what we or should I say I..... needed to hear. This one is a keeper!!!!
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Let's just say this is a "re-bump". Since I bumped it for last Christmas, let's do it again :-

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Originally Posted by Koh for Christmas 2011
Hi, all you wonderful "you's" out there.....

I stumbled over this again today, and figured that "bumping" it would make a lovely "Christmas gift" for all of you !!

So, simply go back to post #1 of this thread, and enjoy !!

Merry Christmas to all of you, and a Prosperous New Year too....



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Oh Koh, such good timing. It's just what I needed today ... thank you.
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Bump ...

This is a post that I read regularly as it really hits the spot for me; it talks of the inner struggle which is a part of my every day.
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Hi all,
Here's a wee gift for you (yes, YOU!!).

This post will serve to bring one very awesome thread back into view, and I strongly suggest you go back to post #1 and read on down.

But wait - there is a bonus this time.....

Something popped into my email this morning, and I just HAD to bring it to your attention. Why? Well it is one of those "hidden" pieces of wisdom that is a lot like the "Dear You" letter in this thread.

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Here's how it goes - see what you think:-

Mittens For Your Mind

If youíve ever been through the building process you know what an obstacle course a construction site can be. Between scaffolding, temporary stairs, tarps, skids and muck, you need to be so careful where you walk and how. If youíre not paying attention it would be too easy to bump your head, scrape your arm or twist your ankle. Wearing steel-toed shoes, safety glasses and a helmet is standard practice for that environment.

Weíre quite protective of our bodies Ė we lather on sunscreen on hot days, wear mittens in the winter, and cover our cuts with Bandaids .....

Ė but how protective are we of our minds?

Our minds are as wide open and as vulnerable as our bodies yet we think nothing of exposing our minds to negativity, toxic conversations, and counter-intuitive advice.

Is it because we canít see the effects of poisonous influence or contaminated content that we allow ourselves to entertain it?

Aha Ė ďSafeguard your reasonĒ ~ Epictetus

ďJust as when you walk you are careful not to step on a nail or injure your foot, you should similarly take the utmost care not to in any way impair the highest faculty of your mind. ď

Hands up if youíre on information overload!
Getting a grasp on filtering through it all and practicing ďchoiceĒ takes effort at first, until it becomes a deserving habit.

Cathy Chmilnitzky, Energy Intuit and Founder of the Energy Mastery Institute, gives this advice. ďSince our minds are the space within which creation is housed, we must become the Master of our Mind. To master your mind you must become an observer of your thoughts, being aware of what youíre thinking at every moment.

Having observed negative thinking entering the mind you can immediately replace it with a positive uplifting thought, a thought that serves your highest and best good. These higher frequency thoughts in turn work to create a life filled with greatness.Ē

Kind of like mittens for your mind, eh?
Jae M. Rang
Jae M. Rang MAS, is a Strategist, Speaker, Author, and a Mum.

Jae studies the mind and universal principles, and the effects ďSENSORY MEDIAĒ has on human beings.

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Koh here again - read that last sentence again (the one about "media"). When you think about that, isn't it scarey?

I often find myself railing about some of the utter filth and "don't-need-to-know" stuff that is constantly fed to us via audio media (radio and TV), almost like they think we should endure a constant barrage of stories of "man's inhumanity to man" !!

Who needs that? Aren't there any stories of goodness, love, truth, commonsense, philanthropy, blessings, etc available for us?

Seems like the Off switches on the radio and TV might be a sensible pair of mittens for me to utilise regularly. How about you?

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Hi Koh,

Such a wonderful and important post. No, our paths didn't cross when I was doing the EP but I too feel like I know you as your words guided and motivated me many times along my journey. You were/are always the voice of wisdom and common sense to a group of vulnerable people looking to change their lives for the better, so thank you your presence here has meant a lot to many and continues to mean a lot.

This topic of 'mittens for the mind' is so very pertinent because IT really is the magic pill we are all looking for. Of course it takes practice, patience and observation but really if we valued it, cultivated it and shared this knowledge with others we wouldn't need to be here, or on anti depressants, of in debt with over spending, or drinking too much alcohol, or yelling at the kids, etc etc etc the list goes on and on.

Again, another absolute gem of a post from you Koh.

P.s. In my early days on the EP I used to fantasise that you were actually Dr Cohen in disguise overlooking and guiding your disciples to victory. I still wonder some days. X
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Hi Donzie,
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In my early days on the EP I used to fantasise that you were actually Dr Cohen in disguise overlooking and guiding your disciples to victory. I still wonder some days. X
Aww, thanks.... But no, I am just one of many who are in awe of the venerable Dr Cohen. What a gift he has given to so many - his methods even had to fly in the face of "accepted norms" but he has succeeded despite that.

But hey, you made my day anyway, Donzie.....

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