10 KGs CLUB

[jlou]

OK, I have just re-read this entire thread and (encourage you to do the same) and have to say this:

Ladybird has made it clear from her very first post that this is a tough love environment and that if you deviate, you will get a VKA. The aim of the club was that we are accountable to ourselves and each other.

You are not in "exile" if you deviate - you just can't qualify to be the biggest loser if what you are losing is deviation weight from the previous week, so that it is fair to the others who have not deviated.

Various people at various times have totally agreed that this tough love and accountability to themselves and each other is what they need to help them through the last stage.

Diaries are very personal and tough love is not always well-received there. However, when you sign up for tough love (eg: joining this club) you have to expect it and for people to tell you what they think.

Often in the forum when people deviate, everyone weighs in and says "it's ok, don't worry about it". That is not what this club is about and that has been clear from the start.

In this club if you deviate, people - not just Ladybird - but also me, and all the other members - are going to tell you it like it is.

It is entirely up to you to post in here if you deviate. If you don't say anything in your diary, no-one will know. If you put it in your diary but choose not to say anything, even if people realise, no-one is going to give you a VKA without you coming in here for it and saying you deviated. I see it as a way of saying "ok, I stuffed up. Now, how do I get back on track?"

If you come in here and you confess, in return you get hopefully:

- a better solution than the one you took (eg: don't eat non-plan food or increase your portion size if you are hungry. That is going to stuff up your refeed. Instead call your clinic and talk to them about it. If you just can't get hold of them or it is after hours, better to eat an extra cracker or piece of fruit until you can get hold of them....)

- some advice or inspiration to help you to get back on the bus and stay there until you reach goal.

What you won't get here is someone holding your hand and saying it was ok to intentionally deviate and I did not think that was what anyone here expected or wanted.

Essentially this club is the boot camp of the forum, to help us all get through those last 10kgs. We are all each others drill sergeants who will pull each other into line and call it like we see it if we step out of line. But once we are back "home" in our own diaries, the drill sergeants are absent.

I am thinking of renaming this thread to indicate that it is the tough love/no deviation tolerated one. I have an idea to start another thread for others who don't want the tough love/VKA but just want to connect with people with a similar amount to lose - maybe even for those who are starting at similar weights so they can connect for their whole journey... I just need to run it past the other mods/admins first to see how feasible that is...

jlou

Edit: I have created the other 10kg (non- tough love, no VKAs) thread so that everyone has a place where they feel comfortable:

http://newyouforum.com/forum/showthr...130#post280130

Will look into the ones for other start weights when able.