sweetie's diary

[Namaste]

Ahhhh Sweetie, now that's dedication.
Eating in the loo.
If you weren't so clogged you could've killed two birds with one stone!

All the best for Tuesday's weigh in, and enjoy the long weekend.

Nam

[sweetie]

Hi all, and thanks for the visits.
I am getting lost with how many days I've done, so I'll follow Nam's example:
Week 3 Day 6
I have to go and weigh on Tuesday, but clean forgot to book. I'll just pop in on Tuesday and see if they can take me. Will go and have blood tests done as well.
Diet is going well. I am feeling like crap. Snotty nose, teary eyes, sore throat, sore body. Think I am getting a cold.

Went to see my little nephew yesterday. What a cuty. Bush of red hair!! No idea where it comes from!!

Had hockey this morning. Dragged my body out of bed, and went there. My patience was really tested by a bunch of seven year olds. (Maybe I am just grumpy!!!

My Aunt came to visit yesterday, sleeped over and went home this afternoon. Problem is that I always dread her visits. For as long as I can remember, she is always criticizing me. Always something to say about, my weight (Started on me when I was 13), or my makeup, or my hair, or my shoes, or my handbag, or, or, or!!! I am sure that she had a role to play in the low self esteem I had for years. I always started a yo-yo diet after one of her cruel remarks, and you know what happens, you add it on with interest!! Now she has started on my children. Knowing this, I told my mom to make spaghetti bolognaise for supper, as the kids would at least eat it. Which they duly did.

I came home a bit late last night from work, and we had to rush off to go and see the baby. So luckily, I did not have to sit at the table with her, as I didn't want to tell her that I am on diet.

Got home, and went to bed, so I didn't really see her.
This morning off to hockey, but then came lunch time. So she had bought all this fancy salad stuff. The herby type lettuces. My kids won't eat is, as it tastes bitter. olives, yeah right, and fetta. She also bought a sour bread. So the kids ate the roast chicken, and that is all!!
So she starts getting fussy about the kids and the lack of veg. WTF. The kids eat veg every day. The worst is that I did not have the guts to tell her to F-off

I ended up making my Cohen's lunch, so she started asking (interogating) me about the diet. I explained briefly, but did not want to get into any rhetoric about it. But she kept on asking. Then she started asking if there is enough variety, isn't it dangerous, blah blah blah. And I thought WTF woman, you have been on so many dngerous diets, to the point that you stuffed up your metabolism. And then she tells about this doctor she is seeing, and how they are purifying her blood blah balh blah. Luckily she left an hour after lunch!! Stupid B!!! But I can not stand up to her!!!

She does not have any children, but always deems it appropriate to tell me how to raise my own. It bugs me!!! She has never been married. Has a rich boyfriend, been together for like 20 years though, lives in a very fancy house on Theesens Island in Knysna. Most of their holidays are overseas.
We are the poor relatives.

Look, I am a bit concerned about Lauren (Age 5). She is chubby, maybe even fat.
We offer them healthy food choices. They prefer brown to white bread. Eat veg, obviously not all, but will always take a bite "because it is good"
We don't give them sugar coated breakfast cereals, and there is always lots of fruit in the house. Sweets or chips are kept for the weekend, as I don't believe that depriving them completely is good either.
And then she will come and ask me, "Mommy, must I go on a diet??" I would then tell her, that it is not necessarry, she just need to keep on eating her healthy food. Problem though is, that half an hour after food, she complains that she is hungry. I then tell her to wait a bit, or have a glass of water or milk. Does not sattisfy her though. What do you do if your child is crying she is hungry, and she is happy to accept a yoghurt or apple. Just concerns me. Could she have PCOS? I know she is young, but could carbs be responsible for her problems? Within 15 minutes to an hour, after she has eaten, she has to go to the toilet. And it is always runny.

Swimming has started this week, and they go twice a week. Maybe the added exercise will help. I just don't want her to go through the stuff I had to go through as a chubby child.
Or maybe I am just paranoid, and she'll grow out of it. She is so confident, and speaks so well with adults and kids like. She is a real little lady. And sooooo loving!! Her personality just draws people to her.
Oh well, I got all my griping out of me. Really should be getting these sore ole' bones to bed. At least there is still 2 days weekend left over.

Oh, before I forget, had a glorious BM this morning. Finally. Oh the feeling of emptiness!!!

[shell]

Hi sweetie,
Could she have a problem with dairy?
My nephew is the same when he has milk, icecream etc....straight to the toilet!
Shell

[thenewvee]

Hi Sweetie!

I finally caught up with your diary!
Man, you are going so well! Congrats on all the good work!
Happy to hear you finally had a BM again! The relief!!

Sorry to hear about the challenges with the Aunt! She sounds like the worst nightmare! Well done for biting your toungue, and HARD!!

Your daughter's hunger sounds really genuine, and perhaps you should have her checked out with a doctor! It does not sound right! As Shell says, it could be some kind of allergy whether to dairy or even wheat! It will help set your mind at ease!

Keep up the great work!

Vee

[julie]

Hi Sweetie thanks for dropping by my diary did you get a photo of your nephew he sounds so cute I love babies. Maybe you should take your daughter to a dietition and see whats happening with her I'm sure they will be able to help you, does she excercise much. They have started programme at our school where the kids do 3 laps of the school every morning to keep them fit and they even do breakfast on a Friday mornning to make sure that the kids who dont eat breakfast have it before they start school. Its a great idea for the kids. I hope you have a great week and the scales are kind to you and those kilos keep falling off you, you will be a yummy mummy before you know it.

[Jenna]

Hi Sweetie,

Sorry to hear about your nasty Auntie. No one needs that rubbish...I had people like that in my life in the US, my brother was one but he would not only berate me in front of the entire family, he would then talk about me behind my back all the time...he was 20 years older than me, so it was even worse because he should know better. I could never summon the courage to tell him to f-off either until I finally stood up to him on my last trip home. Long story but he did/said some pretty nasty stuff and I finally stood up to him - now we are no longer talking because he's not used to anyone standing up to him. I think people like my brother and your Auntie are really just older versions of the school yard bully - they pick on everyone else because they are trying to cover up their own problems and insecurities - tear them down to build me up, etc. I suppose you could always just tell her the truth politely and say that you dont believe that it is appropriate for her to criticise you and question your parenting abilities in front of your children - and if she cannot refrain from this behaviour then you will have to respectfully decline her visits as you cannot have someone coming in and undermining your authority and self esteem in front of your little ones.

Regarding your daughter - have you been to a doctor about her weight? That is where I would start - it is unfortunate that she is already having battles. 5 is far too young to have to worry about weight!! I wouldn't make a big deal of it to her - just say that you need to check out to see if some foods don't agree with her and why she is having runny poos all the time. I too seem to think it could be a lactose intolerance? But I would def go to a doc and get her seen to.

Good luck with everything!! xox

[FlaMie]

Hi sweetie,

You are true to your nick, sweetie to your aunt. You shouldn't fret that you have no guts to stand up to her - hey, you don't have to lower yourself to her level, well done!

As for your child, could it be milk that she's having that is causing her run? Also apparently milk makes one hungry way sooner, just like carbo. I used to take milk and within an hour or so, I'm so darn hungry. So might worth a look if milk is something she has to absolutely take currently?

Here's wishing you a better week ahead gal with that nasty beeeech away

[sweetie]

Hi all,
Just a quick heads up.
I am still feeling like crap. Runny, stuffy nose. Can't taste anything, and it feels as if something is trying to pop my eyes out.
I've posted a picture of Ryan under my photos.

Going to go to bed now, will do a proper chat tomorrow.
(I am so glad that we have a holiday tomorrow. Hopefully I can get rid of this bug by then)

Chat soon

[julie]

Hi Sweetie I hope you feel better soon your two girls are beautiful I bet they are very proud of their mum. Little Ryan is sososo cute he looks so tiny I think we forget how little our kids are when they are first born. Lovely photos. I hope the scales are kind to you

[nattyg]

Hiya Sweetie! I hope you're feeling much better. Gotta love family don't you? That is if you manage to survive them! Can i please suggest taking your daughter to a natroupath? I had success in identifying my food allergies with a great one. Anyway, just an idea. Take care

[sweetie]

Week 4, Day 2
As it was a public holiday yesterday, I could only go for my weigh in this morning.
I lost 8.8 kg in the last 4 weeks.
I am happy about it. Never in my life before have I lost so much weight, in such a short period of time, where I've never felt hungry, I am not grumpy (in any case not more than usual), and I feel great.

Thank you Shell, Vee, Julie, Jenna, Flamie & Natty for popping into my diary. You really have given me some food for thought.
I think I'll get Lauren to a doctor, even if it is just to alay my fears of something horribly wrong.
Feeling a bit better this morning, but decided to rather stay at home till I am OK. We are trying to convince staff not to come to work when they are sick, as they might just make the rest sick, especially with the H1N1 thing going around.
So I'll work from home today. It does feel strange though, as I would normally go to work if I felt like I do today.
But since I have so much work to do, I'll only get to diaries tonight.
Love you all. Thanks for all the encouragement along the way. This forum is what makes it possible

[Crave]

Well done on the huge loss. 8.8 in 4 weeks. No one outside of Cohens will believe you!!!
You are doing great. Congratulations!

Crave

[Newloser]

Wel done Sweetie!!!!

AWESOME RESULTS!!!!!

That is like 2.2kgs a week!!! I can only dream..... ahhhhh....so jelous!!!!

Keep it up the 10kg mark is winking at you!!!

[sweetie]

Oh goodness me, I just realized that I only have 3 days before I am going to Gauteng.
It is going to be a tough one. I am there from Saturday till Thursday. Luckily I live in a flat there so I can still cook for myself.
Me-time as well. I might sound like a bad mother, but even though I work my backside off on these trips, once I leave work, I only have to worry about myself. I miss my kids and hubby a lot, but it is nice to spend some time on myself.
I will also see my sister, as well as my best friend from school.
Will have to do a lot of prep work tomorrow so I am ready for the trip. Hope the weather is not too bad. I am not used to that dry cold any more.

[maria1969yellow]

Thought I would pop in to a few diaries this morning. Congrats on your big loss for the last month.

You will be right with your trip. I found each time I went away I actually lost a bit and I think its cause we are more relaxed which it sounds like you will take a bit of time out when you can. Enjoy the me time definately. Being able to cook you should be right. Just dont leave anything to chance and have yourself organised...

Well done again.

[Roxy]

Wow Sweetie, WELL DONE .....fantastic loss!! Keep it up!

The weather up here is fantastic at the moment. The mornings are still cold but the days are lovely and warm although they say it will be getting a bit cooler towards the weekend....damn...was just enjoying this weather. I hate winter.

Aaawwww, Ryan is beautiful and your kiddies as well. You must post your 4 weeks photos now so we can see. I am sure there is already a big difference.

Don't feel guilty about your me time.....I also used to feel like that and must say I am enjoying the kids being out of the house and independant AND earning their own money.......no more mom I need this, mom I need that.....hee, hee now I sound like a bad mother but I love them dearly and see them often....can't wait for the grand kids now!!

Enjoy your week up here with us.....hope the weather stays nice and that you will stay df!! Keep up the excellent work!!

[Jude]

WooooooooooHooooooooo 8.8 is an amazing loss sweetie, keep up the great work, obviously your doing everything right!!!

[Namaste]

Heya Sweetie,

Firstly: CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR FANTASTIC RESULTS!!!!
You must be SO proud of yourself, and we're all so proud of you too!
And a belated Welcome to Gauteng...the weather was behaving until yesterday...Brrrrrrr.

Sweetie, from what I have read, you are a GREAT mom. Keep doing what you are doing, and I'm with the wise and beautiful Jenna on this one - take your daughter to the doc, but don't make a big deal out of it. She's got a great role model in you, and it's amazing how much they pick up and emulate their parents.

Lol - I'm 32 and I buy the same grocery brands as my mom does...why? Well, er....mom knows best.

As for the auntie...ahem. ...'As jy nice met haar is, miskien erf jy eendag!'
(If you're nice to her, you may end up inheriting). Heh Heh. As for not telling her off, I can relate...but you have every right to bludgeon her with her sour bread if she starts on the kids.

Ahh sweetie, you really are lovely, and I love your posts.
Stay as awesome as you are!

Big Hugs,

Nam

[fornight]

Don't get stress up by the trip. As long as you put your mind to being DF, the trip will go off fine!

Taking time with your own self is important! You need to take care of yourself first before you can help with others.

By the way, Congratulations to your fantastic loss!!!!

[karen2002]

You should be on your trip now and into your me-time (love that). The good thing about fending for yourself is the simplicity of meal times... no stress of additional meals to cook. Use the time away to really consolidate your Cohen's skills for lifelong eating learning.

And... Congratulations on your fantastic loss!! Amazing stuff!!