so good all week then deviation!!! why oh why!!

[annemarie]

Why I ask myself?? Was it worth it??No it wasn't!! But that did not stop me......I started again on Monday last week - have been excellent all week and started losing a couple of kgs and then last night (Sunday) temptation got the better of me and I cheated - I had some of my son's sweets/chocolates and then it all went out of the window. Needless to say I felt disgusted with myself - how can my will-power fail me so much!!! I am back on track this morning but still cannot forgive myself for being so stupid last night.. The thing is that voice in my head is telling me the same thing again now - that is to 'start again tomorrow'. How many times have I said that to myself and that's why I weigh what I do now. You would have thought I had learnt my lesson. Anyone out there any advice??? I am so hungry and cravings for all the wrong foods are driving me to distraction........!!!!! HELP!!!!!!

[Lonniecee]

Annemarie, as to the why, that is something that only you can answer. The important part is that you are aware of what you've done and the behaviours of the past, which you realise is not the path you want to travel. Stop beating yourself up. As so many have said, take it one meal at a time, learn from it and put it behind you. We carry so much guilt because we have stuffed up and why do we have to feel" disgusted' in ourselves because we make a mistake. You have had a great week of being 100% cohens so you can do it again. Look at that achievement rather than focusing on the negative. Don't be so hard on yourself, at this point we need to nurture ourselves and to learn to love who we are not what we are.

Have a great day and focus on the goal not on the mistakes.

Lauren

[annemarie]

hi Lauren
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement - yes you are right in what you are saying and it has helped. I have now got through today without any deviations and tomorrow is another day. I will keep reading the forum as this does help and I will take it one meal at a time!!!!! Thanks again
Have a nice day....
Annemarie

[Lonniecee]

That's the way. Well done.

Lauren

[Kelly123]

Hi Annemarie
I have been exactly like you and deviated every weekend since staring Cohens. But I have to warn you, the more I deviated the harder it was to keep starting again. I am back on the wagon and sticking to it strictly. The voices in my head have told me to start again tommorrow too. But try to think about what you want more, bad foods or a great new body weight. It is correct what everyone tells me, the longer you stay on it, the easier it will get. The hunger pains subside and your focus remains on good foods, rather than bad. I have found that if I weigh myself once a week (at the most) it encourages me to be good. I work hard for 7 days being strict and when I weigh myself I am nicely rewarded. Then it gives me enthusiasm to be good the next week ahead too. You can do it
Regards Kelly

[hexi2]

I find it really helpful to view non Cohens foods as poison and by deviating we are upsetting the chemical balance we are trying to acheive...it takes practice to get better and better at this.

It is really important to understand how the program works and that every deviation is 'starting up the fat factory again' so it is worth trying to find anything that works for YOU - for me it was picturing a steam train moving into motion and getting faster by feeding it with Cohens food - non Cohens food is like throwing water onto the coals...

Be kind to yourself but keep challenging your thoughts...it does get easier with practice! And this journey is more emotional than just the physcial and gets us to confront what we are reinforcing ourselves with 'it's ok to eat that' when in fact the only person we are hurting with this behaviour is ourselves...

[cherry59]

great to read someone else going thru exactly what I am facing now. It's easier during the week but come Sat and Sun it's hard. I'm finding it harder now that I'm close to goal too

Keep at it and count every day that's "pure" as another hurdle faced and beaten!!

Cherry

[annemarie]

Hi Cherry, Hexi, Kelly, Lauren, and everyone else out there!!
Ladies, thanks so much for your words of encouragement - I know they all make sense and looking at all non-cohen foods as 'poisons' whilst on program is a great idea so I will try and 'program' my mind - cos that's what it is that is my downfall - it's that other little voice in my head saying 'go on, it wont hurt, you can start again tomorrow'.......but of course as we all know its not that simple!!!!! anyway trying to stay focused and on track!!!(its snowing here in UK!!!!)
thanks again ladies!!
annemarie