Feeling Frantic and Emotional

[Ronky]

Hi There,

I have today started to feel frantic and emotional. I dont know if it may be PMS or what. I cant seem to get rid of the feeling. Its like I want to burst out crying

Im about 3.5 weeks in. Did anyone else start to feel like this at this stage? I dont know if its a lack of sugar or if my mind is trying to mess with me. Im going to have another multi now and see if that helps (they have turned into my new wine except 2 is all I need!!). Hopefully its just PMS and my body is freaking out as it knows there will be NO mint slices this time!!

Good luck.

[lucylou]

Hi Ronky

It may be PMS or it might be part of the psychology of losing weight. We're so used to having food as our crutch and when we're on this program it's taken away, that's why it's so important to address the reasons why we used to eat. I think panic is part of the emotional letting go of the food that used to fill up all our empty spaces, it used to be our comfort, our friend, our reward for putting up with all the crap that gets thrown at us and now we have small amounts of food and big limitations on the kind of food we're eating. No wonder part of you is frantic.

You need to find something that works for you, I do meditation and also listen to a lot of music which is a great way to change your emotional state. Don't run away from it, find out why it's there but you may need professional help to do so.

The best news is though...it will pass.

x

LL

[KitKat]

Hi Ronky
I went through abit of a black patch a few weeks back and I felt really down. For myself it was probably a combination of a lot of things but I think this program also makes you really think about yourself - especially the relationship you have with food and the impact that may have had on your life. To be successful I really believe this has to be holistic - meaning Cohens will take care of the body, hormones, cravings etc - and although your success will help your motivation and self esteem - it is still you who ultimately is responsible for your emotional well being (with the support and encouragement from people here) It can be confronting and I think when you feel this way you need to talk to people who are supportive, be kind to yourself and take some time to reflect on what you are feeling - it may give you insight. Hope you are ok. Take Care, Kathie

[Ronky]

Thanks ladies. I think you are right. I think Im letting go of a relationship that I had (with food and alcohol) and I may be starting to struggle with it. I will spend some time looking at my feelings and emotions and a different way of dealing with them. As soon as I got home today I threw on my shoes and grabbed the dog and went for a walk. I felt a little better afterwards. I totaly agree with you both. I very rarely have alone time so its probably time I change a few other things. Meditation will be a great start. Maybe grab a yoga DVD. I know when Im at accupunture I feel very calm and together. I will speak to him also about the way that Im feeling.

Now that I have started this and stuck to it and love it I can focus on other parts of my life.

Thanks for your on going support.

[louise41]

Hi ronky, my boyfriend is of the opinion that I get more easily upset when Im dieting, Im not sure if I agree with him but it is an interesting perspective from someone close to me. we are all individual of course and I guess you will work it out in due course, all the best

[Ronky]

Well I am feeling so much better today. Thanks everyone for your words of wisdom. I had a big think about this last night and actually had a strange dream about food that I cant have and walking past it. This must have been what was playing on my mind. Its amazing. I knew that psychological bumps would come up but I really thought I would be able to see them and step over them. I really struggled yesterday. but today I woke up so alive and in a great mood.

I read here that you lose your water in the first few weeks then you go into fat burning mode. maybe thats what I entered and my mind started to realise that I was losing something it wasnt ready to lose. I am forcing my mind to catch up with my body with a bit of self love and healing.

Thanks again. You really helped me shed some light on this story.

Good Luck.

[KitKat]

Hi Ronky
glad to hear that you are feeling better - it's good to look at some new ways to get through this and explore 'yourself' Maybe keep a journal and jot things down, as well as staying in touch with people here, and remember to be kind to yourself, be patient and honest - because at the end of the day it's all up to you.

[SuzieQ]

Hey Ronky,

Just read this post and wanted to respond, better late than never!

I could really relate to what you went through, I felt the same in the first few weeks. It's like all our coping mechanisms have been stripped away from us (food and alcohol) and we are left feeling vulnerable and naked not knowing a new way to deal with our 'stuff'. I felt really empty and alone for a little while (even with full house of hubby and kids), then I realised it's okay to just let ourselves 'feel' whatever it is that we need to feel and let it go - we don't have to cover up the feelings with comfort food and alcohol...it's okay to just feel that emotion it's not going to kill us it will pass. And hopefully in the process of our Cohens journey we'll learn new coping mechanisms that will put us in good stead for the future and replace our old bad habits.

God, do I sound like a quack or what? Anyway, I could just relate and wanted to give my 2cents worth even if it sounds weird .

Suzie

[katrina]

Hi Ronky,
I know the first weeks on Cohen's I was an emotional rollercoaster.
I put it down to not even having felt emotions before and then having a security blanket of food ripped away and going cold turkey.
Its bloody hard and still is however it does lesson as you learn to deal and feel. I have just had a rip roarer of an argument with my daughter tonight as I was going to eat my dinner and instead of cooking up a feed of unhealthy crap like I used to do to deal with kids I actually just said my piece and then calmly ate my food and only my cohen's prescribed food.
I feel however I am more able to deal with the stuff thrown my way and protect myself form other peoples garbage.
Try not to be hard on yourself as you are doing the best thing for your body and for youe mind. You can control yourself and only yourself.
If you need to sort out the feelings talk to someone as there are sometimes deep lying stuff that keeps us from being the healthy person we all want to be.
Stay storng and on the programme and strap yourself in for the rollercoaster ride of your life.
see ya
katrina

[slimstar]

Hi Ronky,
I just stumbled upon this and its fabulous timing for me as Ive been a bit all over the place emotionally of late and unsure what to pin it on, but I must say looking at it after reading this it is pretty clear to me its the first time in a long time I have had to ride out my emotions rather than hide from them with food and drink. Thanks for sharing. Hope youve turned the bend.

[Ronky]

Hi Slimstar. It took me about 2 weeks to really work out what was the story with these feelings. It basically stemmed back about 20 years with protection issues. I always hid with food and made myself bigger so I couldnt be hurt. Little did I know I was hurting myself doing this. I have spent alot of time soul searching in the past couple of weeks and yesterday had my little breakdown fact facing session.

I looked at myself for the first time in ages and spoke to myself for a long time. The thing I noticed by the end of this session was the stress left my face and I looked about 5 years younger.

When you feel like this it may take a few days or even weeks to realise what it is but just keep writing how you are feeling into your diary and one day it will just happen. I feel on top of the world today after feeling like I lived in a swamp yesterday.

If you read what I wrote in my diary yesterday I have explained my emotional turn around.

[Annabelle Joy]

Ronky, that's such good news. It's the emotional need to protect ourselves with layers of fat that's the stumbling block that trips so many of us up and causes us to deviate on a diet. If you can identify the cause(s) and resolve it you no longer have that need, and dieting becomes much easier.

AJ

[Ronky]

Im going through this again!!! ARGH. Its not PMS and I havent been this weight before in my adult life. Im sure I skimmed past it when I was growing up well I guess I had to ha ha. Im putting it down to anxiety about getting to the end. Did anyone else feel this way when they were close to finishing? Im having signs of refeed however Im still a bit off according to the KG's.

Anyway any advise on how to deal with this if you have experienced it at this stage would be great. I bought some Zinc B6 and magnesium tablets that are supposed to help with controling emotions related to PMS so hopefully these will help although that is not the reason for it.

Good Luck.

[Shanara]

Some wise words about doing your emotional healing and getting your head in the right place.

Shanara